Monday, 7 May 2012

Bring on the post baby belly parade

What a breath of fresh air website theshapeofamother.com is. It is just the antidote to the pressure society now puts on all mothers to shed their baby weight weeks after giving birth.
This website, which was set up by mother-of-two Bonnie Crowder, shows mother's post baby bodies in a staggeringly honest light, saggy bellies, stretch marks, scars and all. Alongside these refreshing pictures are real-life testimonials from mums about their struggles to lose their baby weight. Others are completely defiant about it and refuse to be pressured into losing their bulge.

In today's society there is the perception that women should go all out to lose any excess weight as soon as they have given birth. This idea is fuelled by the media, where day in day out we are shown new photographs of the latest celebrity mum parading around just a few weeks after giving birth in a skin tight dress without the slightest hint of a belly on her.

This puts just as much pressure on the celebrity as it does the average mum. She must feel it would be a cardinal sin to give even a glimpse of extra flesh to the awaiting paparazzi the first time she steps outside with her newborn baby. It would be more than her career was worth.

It is time real mothers gave the media a run for their money and showed a far more realistic portrait of a mum's post birth figure and this is exactly what this website is doing.

It is completely unnatural for mothers to be able to shrink back into their post baby form so quickly. It takes radical measures to be able to slim down so fast, all requiring a lot of money, time and energy. These are things a mum of a newborn baby does not have in the non-celebrity world.

However, there are a whole host of other resulting effects on a mother's skin which no manner of dieting will erase, such as the stretch marks and the scarring.

These have become myths in the celebrity world. A bit of lasering and a nip and tuck here soon eradicates this problem, as does a good pair of knickers, and no one ever talks about it again. It is time society faced up to the reality of motherhood. Mums cannot become airbrushed, slim-line figures overnight. The pressure has become so bad, it appears more and more people are too ready to brand any mother who does not rush out to erase all signs she ever carried a baby inside her as lazy. There will be some people in society who as a result do not understand how difficult in reality it is for women to return back to their original shapes, while there are some blemishes which will never go away.

It is time mothers were able to not only wear their saggy bellies and stretch marks with confidence but for them to be seen as a badge of honour. They do not show that a mother has let herself go after having children but rather are testiment to all the hard work and effort it took to carry that baby within her for nine months and then the agonising pain she went through to give birth. A woman without any of these post baby attributes should be deemed the inferior, not the other way round.

This website theshapeofamother.com should go some way to helping move society in this direction. Of course it will not be viewed by such a wide audience as the numerous photos of mothers showing off their trim tums in celebrity magazines but it is certainly a step in the right direction. Hopefully more people will follow suit and begin to show off their post baby bodies with pride.




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